Geek Girls Rule! #230 – “Fake” Geek Girls
Ok, seriously people, this is getting fucking ridiculous. I’ve touched on this in a few recent blog posts and sort of on the podcast. But this is the deal: Knock it off with the Geek Policing. Got it?
For a start, you almost only ever do it to women, which is sexist. You primarily do it to women that you find attractive, which is sexist, although you also do it to women you don’t find attractive, still sexist. And as Rachel said on the “Chicks Dig Comics” panel at Geek Girl Con, it is ridiculous for a group of people who have largely banded together because they felt marginalized, to start marginalizing other people. Also, quit assuming that the possession of make up, girly clothes, breasts and/or a vagina means we don’t read, understand or enjoy comics. Got it?
Look, it’s bullshit on so many levels. As we discussed in both the Sexy Geek Girls and Sexy Geek Boys posts, Geek Policing is most commonly done at women, even when they are wearing signifiers of geekitude, like say a Green Lantern t-shirt, or even when they have just spent an hour picking out comics in a comic shop only to have a salesguy ask if those are for their boyfriend.
First, why do you hate that attractive women are interested in the things you’re interested in? I don’t get that. And I’ve run into that attitude in comics fandom, videogames, and role-playing circles. It’s stupid. Why is it that you seem to think that the very presence of lady-parts (or parts belonging to someone lady-identified) is going magically suck all the fun out of your hobbies? “Oh no, a person with breasts in a dress in near proximity touching a comic book, SUDDENLY I DON’T ‘GET’ X-MEN!”
Seriously, guys, I have yet to hear an excuse for this that isn’t as ridiculous as that last sentence.
Plus, if you want to MEET women, shouldn’t you be overjoyed that they’re into things that you’re interested in? I mean, it kind of makes sense that if women are into comics, gaming, or videogames more of them will cross your path.
I’m about to be brutally honest: I suspect most of the guys who are complaining about this use the isolation of their hobby from the objects of their “affection” as an excuse to not look more deeply into why they can’t get dates. I really think this is a lot of it. Right now, they can console themselves with the fact that girls just don’t get their hobbies. But if girls DO get their hobbies, that kind of blows that whole, “We aren’t interested in the same things” angle, and makes them have to confront the “Oh God, maybe I’m actually a big giant douche!” angle, which is uncomfortable.
And I get that. I really do. It sucks to realize you have odious personality traits, but you know what? We all have them, and sometimes we need to figure that shit out and fix it.
Second, even if they are “new”to an interest or hobby, shouldn’t you be encouraging them? Regardless of gender? See, here’s the thing, I pimp my hair stylist, a lot. And she’s really busy so booking with her is kind of a pain in the ass, but I keep pimping her because AS LONG AS SHE’S MAKING A LIVING AT IT SHE WILL KEEP DOING HAIR, INCLUDING MINE! Even if I do have to book two to three weeks out. That’s the same thing with games and comics, if you encourage new fans they will give money to the people who make the things you like, which means that the people who make the things you like WILL BE ABLE TO KEEP MAKING THOSE THINGS YOU LIKE! It’s not rocket science, in fact it’s kind of the opposite of rocket science, it’s simple MATH. Aren’t nerds supposed to be good at math?
Third, look, there is not finite amount of fun in the universe. Every bit of fun I have does not deprive another human being somewhere else of fun. When I put my room-mate’s copy of Ultramarines in the X-box and blow up orcs, there isn’t some guy 2,000 miles away who suddenly finds no joy in blowing up HIS orcs. Just because I run role-playing games doesn’t mean some Grognard on the other side of town suddenly lost all will to DM for his buddies. Come on!
Geek-policing and calling women “fake geek girls” because you do or don’t find them attractive is bullshit. It’s marginalizing and it’s crap. There is no bar of attractiveness over or under which one cannot be a geek. And yeah, I admit, I sometimes find myself being annoyed by conventionally hot geek girls because on some level I feel like, “Jesus Christ, you’ve GOT normal dudes, do you have to come poach ours, too?” But that’s the internalized misogyny talking and it’s bullshit. I know it’s bullshit and I want YOU to know it’s bullshit.
We should be encouraging everyone who wants to explore our hobbies, because we should want to share our joy with people who are interested in it. Because when other people buy the stuff we like, more of it will get made. And because discounting people because of their appearance, whether it’s jocky dudes and hot girls blowing of geek boys and girls, or geeks blowing off the pretty people, sucks.
We’re better than that.
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